well, finally got them working with main beam as they should.
After checking inside the main fusebox one of the connectors for the fuse was missing.
To get round this I got a positive feed from the positive going to the rear foglight relay (white/blue) I then put in a 15A fuse and connected the other end to the orange wire which goes to the driving lights relay.
If anyone has these lights fitted and not wired this is the easiest way to do it if the wiring is already in the car. You will need a relay like the one in my picture above to go in the relay box.
I couldn't find the connector for the passenger side light, but I don't actually think it's there because looking at the haynes wiring diagram, it just connects from the drivers side one so all I did for that was got a connector from the scrappy and connected it to the drivers side wiring and took it across to the passenger side one.
